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This is the fifth in a series on humility; it starts with “got humility?”

I’m seeing that a large part of growing in humility is learning to love people. I started to write “deal with people,” but deal sounds so…unloving. I don’t want to be one who sees others as something to deal with, as if people were obstacles; I want to love people as if they are the most important thing around. And that requires humility, total dependence on and trust in God. As my family will tell you, humility does not come naturally to me, and I know that only with God’s help can I walk consistently in humility and love in my relationships.

Reading Luke 4 today made this all the clearer. Jesus returns to Nazareth, his hometown, and goes to the synagogue on the Sabbath. It suddenly occurred to me: Jesus had history with these people — decades of history. These citizens of Nazareth who tried to kill Jesus because He offended them: Jesus had grown up with them, played with them, worked for them, lived with them. Back in June, I wrote about my realization that Jesus had a real job for many years; today I realized that Jesus had a lot of relational issues to deal with.

Thirty-three years of parents, brothers and sisters, friends, neighbors, customers, vendors. Thirty-three years of relationships, and He never sinned. Not once. Is that amazing, or what?

When I think about the perfection of Jesus, I tend to think of the “big” things: He didn’t steal, didn’t lie, didn’t lust. I knew theoretically that this also meant He never swore at someone in anger, never made a dig to build Himself up, never joked at someone’s expense. I knew it in theory, but I had never considered the implications. Imagine this scenario:

Jesus: I’ve finished your shelves — just what you ordered.
Woman: It’s too tall.
Jesus: Three cubits high, two cubits wide. That’s what you told me.
Woman: But that was when I wanted them for the living room. I’ve decided to put them in the bedroom, and those shelves would just dominate that room. No, it’s too tall. I don’t want these.
Jesus: But you didn’t take the last set I built because the color was wrong.
Woman: I know, but it’s so hard to visualize how the finished product will look with the other furniture. When I got home, I thought that color would be perfect in the bedroom, so that’s where I want them. And they are beautiful. Just the right color. But too tall. You’ll need to make them smaller.
Jesus: Yes Ma’am. What are the measurements for the bedroom?

Imagine dealing with this (could you read it without putting some sort of negative inflection on any of Jesus’ responses? It’s hard!) — dealing with this, and with insults, words spoken in anger or sarcasm, actions from thoughtlessness or from hurtful intentions — dealing, in short, with fallen human nature, and never sinning. I continue to be astounded as I ponder this. I find it a challenge to make it through one day without messing up multiple interactions, and Jesus made it through an entire life.

The question, of course, is how did He do it? Andrew Murray points us to Jesus’ language:

Listen to the words our Lord speaks of His relationship to the Father and see how consistently He uses the words not and nothing of Himself…

• “The Son can do nothing by himself” (John 5:19)
• “By myself I can do nothing; I judge only as I hear, and my judgment is just, for I seek not to please myself but Him who sent Me” (John 5:30)
• “I do not accept praise from men” (John 5:41)
• “For I have come down from heaven not to do my will” (John 6:38)
• “My teaching is not my own” (John 7:16)
• “I am not here on my own” (John 7:28)
• “I do nothing on my own” (John 8:28)
• “I have not come on my own; but He sent Me” (John 8:42)
• “I am not seeking glory for myself” (John 8:50)
• “The words I say to you are not just my own” (John 14:10)
• These words you hear are not my own” (John 14:24)

Murray concludes:

These words of testimony, spoken by the Lord himself, reveal the deepest motivation of His life and work… He was nothing that God might be all.

This life of entire self-abnegation, of absolute submission and dependence upon the Father’s will, Christ found to be the source of perfect peace and joy. He lost nothing by giving all to God.

He never for a moment sought His own honor or asserted His power to vindicate himself. His whole spirit was that of a life yielded to God.

“He lost nothing by giving all to God”: that’s the crux, isn’t it? Pride is about the fear of losing to others. If I don’t respond to this, I’ll lose face. I need to put him in his place, or he’ll think he’s won. I won’t her get the better of me. Add to this thinking the fact that humility looks like being a doormat, and we see why humility in relationships comes so hard.

But when I consider what I get when I assert my rights and seek to win…I get trouble. I allow strife into my home, I open the door to condemnation, and I invite the Spirit’s conviction; none of these is pleasant, and the consequences tend to last a while. In contrast, when I allow humility to guide me in my relationships, I experience the momentary pain of self-denial, but that’s it. And that doesn’t last very long. So what do I have to lose? According to Jesus, nothing.

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