Friday, March 10, 2006 · no responses · comments closed

One Million Dads sent an email asking members to contact Revlon and Dyson about their advertising during ABC’s new show Sons and Daughters. The email included the dialogue between a mother and her 13-year-old daughter regarding her parents’ level of intimacy. The mother says that sometimes after couples marry, they discover that sex just isn’t that important. The daughter responds, “Mom, no offense, but I’d rather kill myself than be in a relationship where sex isn’t the most important thing.” I’ve heard similar statements from some of my college students over the years.

The daughter’s statement was put in perspective a little while later as I was listening to Joyce Meyer, who has been married for more than 35 years. Joyce said, “When Dave walks in the room, I don’t get all aflutter anymore… When we kiss, my heart doesn’t pound… but I love him more than I can say.” Her point was that somewhere along the way, a relationship should be controlled by more than emotion; it’s controlled by something deeper and more lasting — true love. Physical intimacy is important in a marriage, but it’s certainly not “the most important thing,” and I suspect you wouldn’t have to hunt very long to find successful couples that would tell you as much.